Twice in a week, I found myself extremely irritated to be eating something that had been labeled one thing that clearly was another.
One item was labeled Salted Caramels and the other was a Cheesy Pizza Dip.
One afternoon, I was steaming about it all, until I realized that the reason I was so affected by it was because they weren’t being authentic.
They both had been pretending to be something they weren’t. And nothing irks me more then inauthenticity.
Salted Caramels were really just fruit and nuts. And the cheesy dip was potato based and tasted nothing like cheese or pizza.
And the thing is, that while neither tasted like the thing they were trying to be, each was super yummy in it’s own right. Afraid to be what it really was and instead trying to be something that it wasn’t.
I think this point is one that I’m really passionate about for every being. In the search to figure out who you are, sometimes you just need to be a poor version of yourself then to pretend to be something you are not.
I’m not advocating that this is easy, as I’ve sat in many uncomfortable versions of myself along the way, and know that I will do it again many more times before my human journey is over.
But if we step outside our authentic selves, instead of staying the course of change, it’ll just take you longer to get where you are going. And you will fray your system from being inauthentic.
"Better one's own Dharma imperfectly disposed than another's Dharma well-performed." Bhagavad Gita 18.47 (translation by Douglas Brooks)
One of my favorite quotes from the Bhagavad Gita and one that I try to remember often along my path.
Connecting to your authentic self is something that constantly changes as your life evolves. And who you are in any given moment and scenario can (and will) change. It’s an art to stay true to yourself and who you are.
And it’s more of a dance then an endpoint. (See Getting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable)
Back to those inauthentic, metaphoric snacks. They were definitely trying to perform something else’s role and not even doing a good job at that! And while that wasn’t a salted caramel, but indeed a tasty fruit and nutty treat, I would have appreciated it telling me so from the beginning instead of being frustrated with believing I was getting one thing but instead getting another.
So show up as your fruity, nutty self if that's who you are. Otherwise be a salted caramel. :) You know. Or whatever you really are right now.
When do you find it hardest to stay in your authentic self? Share below.
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Welcome to 2018!
My words for this year are action and passion. My goal is to bring both those together inside all my offerings for you this year.
Here’s a preview of what’s to come (all these offerings will be available online):
Motivate To Meditate: January 17, 2018
This online program is my answer for those who've been struggling to create a daily meditation practice and really want to experience the benefits of meditation in their lives. Designed to fully support you during the 33 days of the course (and beyond!) plus, there’s an option to include 2 downloadable guided meditations! Sign up now!
Finding Your Quiet Mind™: July 10, 2018
This will be a slightly redesigned version of the original which will make the course even easier to digest and implement, while still demystifying meditation, and covering all the basics so you can begin your journey to a quiet mind!
The Meditation Studio™: Summer 2018
The Meditation Studio™ will be the host and source for all the recorded guided meditations you will ever need! It will be a collection of the meditations I teach along with explanations on how to use them. I am beyond excited to put this together for you!
And much later this year….
Love From The Inside Out™: Fall/Winter 2018
This course will focus on the spiritual mentoring side of my offerings where you will learn what it means to love and fully embrace all aspects of yourself, how to deal with destructive thinking, how to forgive and hold yourself with compassion, along with several other topics. We’ll navigate 6 topics using the power of myth, mantra, self introspection, and practices to learn how to break patterns and create noticeable change in your life. Can’t wait to introduce this one!
I laid a lot of groundwork last year so that I can create and deliver new offerings for you this year. I am excited about what lies ahead in 2018 - I hope you are too - and I'm here to support you on your journey!
I'm also available to work with you in personalized one on one sessions.
Be sure you check out these blogs on meditation and life:
Out Of Control Mind
Getting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
The Power Of Love
About 5 months ago we adopted our first rescue dog. A black lab we named Pepper. We seriously won the rescue jackpot with her. She is a super sweetheart, easy going, fit right into our family (with 2 cats), and loves everyone she meets.
We don’t know how we scored so big! Her only flaw is that she has developed some separation anxiety. Who can blame her? Like most rescues her story is a sad one, being abandoned in a house with her sibling lab brother when her human family moved out. (Seriously, what is wrong with some people?!)
As part of our strategy to help remove her separation anxiety we’ve done a bit of everything: changing everything about our routines, leaving on tv, leaving on music, leaving on a loop of my recorded meditations, recording us having a conversation and leaving that on loop, using a thunder shirt, moving her crate to a new location, we even turned off all the panel sound on our alarm system so we could arm it without her even knowing!
That’s right - the panel makes no sound now. So not only can we set the system without her knowing it, but when we come home it doesn’t even beep when the system is tripped. The only sound it makes is the siren when the alarm goes off. And we’ve been hearing that a lot lately!
How is it possible that we keep setting this thing off almost on a daily basis when we’ve been using an alarm system for 13 years?!
This is what I woke up thinking about this morning as my husband set the alarm off for the first time today. (I then set it off after returning from our walk!)
Its the first thing we do every time we walk in the door. Shouldn’t this be an automatic habit by now?
But without the beep letting us know its been tripped we keep forgetting to turn it off.
Why do we keep forgetting when this has been part of our daily routine for so long?
The answer is that without the audible reminder of the beep we just simply forget that we need to do it - even after 13 years. That blows my mind!
This got me thinking about reminders in general. I know I have to add every task or event to my calendar or it will get forgotten.
And I started thinking about when I wanted to create a meditation practice on my own and how I had to schedule it to be part of my day or it wouldn’t happen.
Anytime you want to do something that is out of your usual routine (or maybe even if it’s part of your usual routine - like the alarm!) it is helpful to take the time to create a reminder for yourself.
[This same concept could be used to remove a habit you no longer want too - just remove the trigger.]
For now, I’m adding a note to remind us to turn off the alarm!
Oh, and Pepper is doing much better with her separation anxiety. We don’t have her 100% yet, but our last time out she actually slept. Hopefully that means, we can turn the alarm sound back on soon.
If you’d like reminders (and a whole supportive program) to create your daily meditation practice - join us for Motivate To Meditate!
Jenn White, Yoga Educator, Meditation Teacher, and Owner of Embodied Bliss, began her journey of yoga and meditation in 2004 while recovering from a back injury. Feeling lost, restless and seeking something more from life, she found her path through meditation.
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